How to Make Your Partner Squirt (Or Have a Good Time Trying)

If you’ve ever seen a woman squirt in porn, lower your expectations just a little. Not everyone with a vulva can squirt, and when they do, it’s most likely won’t look like gallons of liquid.

That said, learning how to make a woman squirt (or anyone with a vulva) can intensify your connection as you learn about their body and all the ways to enhance their pleasure.

If you need a quick recap, squirting happens when a person with a vulva is very, very aroused. It’s a clear, odourless fluid that might secrete from the vagina during arousal or orgasm. But it’s not strictly the same as ejaculate or pee, research suggests.

In this article, you’ll find out everything you need to know about this bedroom legend. You’ll learn all the best tips, positions, and sex toys to make a woman squirt during sex… or at least have a great time trying!

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In theory, anyone with a vulva has the capacity to squirt. But in reality, not everyone will. And not everyone who can squirt will experience it every time they have sex.

Research suggests that anything between 10-54% of women have already squirted at least once. This broad figure shows just how tricky it is to know how many vulva owners are capable of squirting, not least because squirting is often confused with female ejaculation or pee.

So, why do some women squirt while others don’t? Well, every body is different. In general, it’s believed the G-spot stimulation is essential to making a woman squirt. And once someone has done it once, it might be easier the next few times they try. But the same techniques might not work for everyone with a vulva.

Another factor is your partner’s frame of mind. Sexual arousal is key, of course, but they might also need to feel particularly safe and comfortable with you. Squirting aficionados explain that the sensation they feel before squirting is a lot like needing to pee.

For a lot of people, that feeling is quite off-putting. They might get nervous and tense their vaginal muscles (intentionally or not), which stops them from squirting.

“There are various techniques that you can use,” says Calie on the Lovehoney Forum. “All ultimately involve being relaxed, comfortable and enjoying yourself.”

When it comes to making your partner squirt, just remember there’s no one-size-fits all solution. That said, learning how to make a woman squirt and trying it out with your partner can be fun and gratifying, even if it doesn’t work first time.

1. Forget any myths you’ve learned

Before you learn how to make your partner squirt, let’s address some of the main misconceptions about this phenomenon.

Firstly, you can’t really make your partner squirt. You can only get them very turned on and relaxed and give it your best shot with some tips and techniques from this guide. The rest is up to their body.

Secondly, it’s not the hose-like scenario you might have seen in porn, soaking everything in its way. Dr Jess O’Reilly, sexologist and host of the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast, explains: “Usually, the fluid expelled is about a teaspoon in volume and doesn’t squirt across the room.”

Not only that, but squirting doesn’t necessarily mean better orgasms. Plenty of people enjoy squirting, and even fantasize about it. But, equally, not everyone will find it exciting.

With that in mind, try not to put pressure on your partner about squirting. If they’re excited or curious to try it with you, that’s amazing. However, pretty much everyone on the Lovehoney Forum agrees that feeling under pressure to squirt for a partner makes it impossible!

Gosig, a Forum user, offers the following advice to people who want to squirt: “Forget about trying specifically to squirt, focus instead on different types of pleasure…Relax, explore, give up on it ever happening, and bingo, you might get a puddle of surprise!”

So, if you’re sure your partner is interested in squirting and you’re ready to make them feel comfortable and safe doing so, read on. You’ll find plenty of tips below.

2. Ask what turns them on

Next time you’ve got some time alone, talk to your lover about their turn-ons and turn-offs. Be open minded and avoid shaming them for their fantasies, as this will help them relax and enjoy sex with you.

It’s important to talk during sex too, taking direction on what sensations they do and don’t enjoy. You can also try masturbating together to see how they make themselves climax. Do they love it when you focus on their clitoris? Do like using a rabbit vibrator to masturbate?

When it comes to squirting, you’ll need to stimulate them in a way that they find sexy, while elevating those sensations. It all starts with great communication and a solid understanding of what they like in the bedroom.

3. Build up anticipation

Setting the mood and seducing your partner can help them relax while you build anticipation for the main event. It sounds obvious, but couples often forget how important arousal is for sexual pleasure.

If you’re just going through the motions, you can have sex and even orgasm, but it might not be as pleasurable as when you’re incredibly turned on first. Think about the best sex you’ve ever had… Bet you were horny before you even started!

Everything from candles and music to the way you initiate sex can play a role in arousal. You could try sending some flirty messages throughout the day or offer to give your partner a sexy massage. Pick up some sensuous massage oil and take your time working it into their back and neck muscles before you move to their bum, chest, or feet.

If you’ve got a wand vibrator to hand, you can use it to enhance a massage as well as to pleasure your lover by teasing it over their nipples, vulva, or anus. Just be sure to swap to water-based lube before massaging their vulva, as it’s safer for sensitive genitals.

4. Get to know their anatomy

Squirting can happen in a variety of ways, but most people agree it requires stimulation of the G-spot. Some might find it’s possible to squirt via clitoral stimulation, and others need both G-spot and clitoral stimulation.

Either way, if you want to make a woman squirt, you should understand their anatomy. That means using your fingers, mouth, or a sex toy to locate and stimulate their G-spot and clitoris.

The clitoris is larger than most people realise, reaching inside the vagina. But you can stimulate by massaging the small bump where the labia meet above the vaginal opening. That’s what most people mean when they refer to the “clit”.

The G-spot is often described as a spongy button on the front wall of the vagina, but the exact texture, depth, and placement can vary. So, it’ll take exploration and good communication to find your partner’s G-spot.

We’d recommend inserting a clean finger into their vagina and gently massaging the front vaginal wall (i.e. the side closest to their belly button, rather than their back). Listen to your partner’s moans and see if they intensify when your finger is around one or two inches deep. Ask them to let you know if any spot feels particularly intense.

5. Try G-spot stimulation techniques

Once you’ve located the G-spot, gently move your fingers in a “come hither” motion, as though you’re beckoning the orgasm out of their body. That’s considered a go-to method for stimulating the G-spot – but be sure to ask your partner if it feels good.

You can also try tapping or massaging in circles. Just take your cues from your partner and focus on the sensation they like best.

While you’re stimulating the G-spot with your longest finger, cup your hand around the vulva and use the heel of the hand to gently press or rub the clitoris. Hand doesn’t quite reach? Use your mouth to lick or kiss the clitoris instead – or read on to find out how sex toys can help make a woman squirt.

But wait, we didn’t talk about lubrication! It’s essential that you use lube whenever you penetrate your partner, whether that’s with your fingers, a toy, or a penis. It’ll reduce friction and enhance those pleasurable sensations. You can also try female orgasm boosters to intensify their climax.

6. Go deeper and more intense with sex toys

Your fingers can do a lot. But you might not quite have the reach (or customisable vibration patterns) of a great quality sex toy. Plus, it can be incredibly hot using a toy to stimulate your partner… or watching them use it themselves!

The most popular toy for trying to squirt is a rabbit vibrator, because it stimulates both the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time, resulting in powerful blended orgasms. Pick a toy like Lovehoney’s Jessica Rabbit, which has a rotating shaft and beautiful pearly beads for added internal pleasure.

Or, your partner loves the sensation of oral sex, you could use a clit sucking dual stimulator like the Womanizer Blend. Like a classic rabbit, the Blend offers both internal and external stimulation at the same time – with a twist.

Instead of the “bunny ear” style of clitoral stimulator, Womanizer toys use Pleasure Air Technology to stimulate the clitoris without overstimulating it, which might give your partner the chance to experience multiple orgasms in a row.

7. Switch up the sensations

Your best bet for incredible orgasms is understanding how your partner likes to be touched and what makes them tick. That said, sometimes novelty can be the thing that makes you or partner come harder than ever before. If you’ve already experimented with your hands or your favourite toys; switch it up.

For example, you might not often incorporate oral sex into your play routine, preferring to get straight to penetration. Or, maybe you already use a wand vibrator together, but you’ve never tried a dildo or strap-on.

Some people also find it easier to squirt with “thudding” rather than vibrations. Thudding is deep repetitive pressure inside the vagina. To try it, you’ll need plenty of water-based lube and way of penetrating your partner – either with your penis or a strap-on.

If you have a penis, but not much length, consider a hollow strap-on that could reach those deep sweet spots. Next, pick a position that allows for deep penetration with G-spot stimulation. You’ll still need to warm your partner up with foreplay and maybe some gentler penetration at first, but when they’re really aroused and ready to go, it’s time to go deeper.

Not sure where to start? We’ll cover that below.

Before you go

What works for one partner might not work for another, and not everyone will be interested in trying to squirt. The important thing is that you create a safe, comfortable environment for your lover to enjoy themselves as much as possible.

So, have fun trying to make your partner squirt but don’t worry if it doesn’t happen. Sex is about building intimacy and showing how much you care for each other – as well as getting your rocks off. Whether your partner squirts or not, if you’ve both have fun, you’ve had great sex.