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What is Orgasm Play?

Orgasm play (or control) is the act of taking charge over how, when and if an orgasm will take place during intimate play.

Orgasm control can be explored during solo masturbation (sometimes referred to as "edging", "peaking" or "surfing"), but is often used as a tool for submission during BDSM and power play scenarios.

During couples' play, orgasm control is usually broken down into two main types: 'Orgasm Denial' and 'Forced Orgasms'.

Not sure what that means?

Read on to find out their true definitions, why you might like to try it, and how.

So, in case you missed it, this week Universal Studios released the first sneak peak into Fifty Shades Darker, and suffice to say, it's got us pretty darn excited!

After watching the trailer many, many times (that shower scene!) we started to notice a few hidden messages. Could they be telling us more than initially meets the eye? Are we making this up as we go along? Who knows?!

Either way it gave me an excuse to spend all afternoon looking at Christian Grey. #ItsAHardLife

So, for your pleasure, I've compiled my top 8 revealing set details which I reckon tell us even more about what we can expect to see in Fifty Shades Darker in February.

First and foremost, thank you for the fabulous response to our first edition of 'Fetish FAQs With Jess' which launched in July.

It's been a roaring success and I'm so so pleased that I've managed to help a few people out there in the real world - Kink-Wizard Level unlocked!

With the UK summer being as brilliant as ever (groan) it seems most of you have been keeping yourselves busy in the bedroom to pass the time (and get some privacy from the kids!) during the holidays.

In this week's instalment, I'm answering questions on how to find beginner's bondage gear, how to dominate your boyfriend, and how to balance romance and kink in the bedroom.

Not to mention I make some pretty sweet analogies about sex and food - and who doesn't love both of those things?

So if you're baffled by bondage, stumped by S&M or flustered by fetishes, read on to be enlightened.

Don't forget to add a comment with your kink query and your question could be answered next month.

A lot of you lovely readers will already know who I am, but for those of you who don't, let me introduce myself.

I'm Jess; Lovehoney's in-house Bondage Expert. With a background in burlesque, pin up modelling, fetish event promotion and being a bit of a pirate-goth hybrid, my transition to Bondage Expert has been pretty easy!

As you can probaby imagine, I see a fair share of niche products, and every day have something new and fantastic on my desk. It's through personal research, experience and a keen interest in all things unusual that have led me to learn a tonne about a wide range of fetishes.

Every week I get asked questions about bondage and kink, but there are some questions which crop up (grooaan!) more often than others. That's the inspiration for this blog.

Every month I'll be taking the most common (or most interesting!) questions and answering them here.

Got a burning question about bondage, S&M or another fetish? Comment below and your question could be answered in next month's blog.

What a month for user-uploaded reviews! With lots of fun new products appearing in October, and a great back catalogue of customer favourites being reviewed, it was tricky to pick just one winner of our Review of the Month competition.

In the end, we chose Cornish89's sincere review of the brand new Sqweel Go USB Rechargeable Oral Sex Simulator ([[productprice:productid=27037]]) as winner, and we're delighted to award her £100 to spend at Lovehoney.

We loved her change from sceptic to full-blown convert:

"I applied lube to myself and started off on the slowest speed which was a nice warm up. I then sped it up, I was surprised to feel close to orgasm on the second setting and pretty shocked to have an orgasm when I put it on the fastest speed! The Sqweel Go has definitely been added to my very short list of items that I can use solo and know I'll achieve orgasm!"

Read the entire review by Cornish89.

Want to add to Lovehoney's [[stats:reviews]] customer product reviews and be in with a chance to nab £100? Read our guide to Writing Winning Product Reviews to get started.

That's not all! We've also picked runners up to receive 2,000 Oh! Points to spend or save. Read on to find out if you were one of the lucky ones…