How to Use a Wand Vibrator For Magical Orgasms

The clit has over eight thousand nerve endings and using the wand feels like it hits all of them at once. Okay, science says that's impossible, but this vibe is so powerful that the pleasure it gives you feels like some kind of sorcery.

From 80s porn movies to Grace and Frankie (and your nightside table) the wand vibrator really gets around, thanks to its intense and multi-purpose massaging strength. Keep reading to learn how to use a wand vibrator for the first time and get whimsical orgasms.

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• A magic wand is one of the best sex toys for women because it offers external clitoral stimulation with powerful vibrations. It was originally created as a body massager and can be used by people of any gender.
• You can use a magic wand to massage you or your partner’s back, neck, and shoulders, use it on your nipples or inner thighs for arousal, or stimulate the clitoris or G-spot (with attachments).
• First time doing magic? Start by getting to know your wand and trying the settings on your back and hands. Caress yourself for a while and once you’re already turned-on, bring the toy to your clit and labia– or penis and balls if you’ve got ‘em.
• Play with your wand placement, change movements and positions. Don’t get frustrated if you don’t come the first time, make some time to try again.
• Clean your wand as soon as possible after you use it.
• Invite your partner to join in on the fun. Start with a sensual body massage. You can also try edging to ramp up the pleasure. Or use it while spooning or doing it in different sex positions.

A magic wand is one of the most powerful clitoral vibrators. It was initially designed by Hitachi as a back massager, but women started using it for a different purpose: to feel relief in the back and in between their legs. Today, people still swear by the wand, because it’s versatile and gives you all-over body sensations that leave you feeling relaxed and blissfully satisfied from head to toe.

We all have multiple erogenous zones, like the neck, ears, nipples, inner thighs, the back of the knees, or the perineum. So, all genders can use the magic wand vibrator and enjoy getting goosebumps by:

• Massaging your or your partner’s back, neck, and shoulders (after all, it was initially created for this purpose)
• Playing with your or your partner’s nipples and breasts
• Rubbing it against the side of your or your partner’s body, butt cheeks, and inner thighs

If you have a vulva, bring the wand close to your labia and enjoy the tingling before moving it to your clit – start at the lowest setting. What we love about this toy is its versatility; you can get attachments and turn it into an internal stimulation vibrator for the P-spot or G-spot.

If you have a penis, this toy can also give you immense pleasure by using it on your head, shaft, or testicles. One Lovehoney customer says, “I use this on my husband's member. He says it feels amazing, like nothing he has had before.”

We won’t lie, the original magic wand vibrator is a tad intimidating – it’s big and has one of the strongest vibrations among sex toys. But it can give you toe-curling, tingly orgasms. So, if this is your first time, we recommend you take it slow and follow these steps.

Get to know your wand

Grab your wand, read the book of charms (aka the instructions manual), charge it, experience how it feels when you grab it, and test out different vibration levels on your hand. For example, the We-Vibe Wand 2 has a flexible neck, 10 intensity levels, and 10 vibration patterns. Experience how those feel to the touch.

Give yourself a nice neck and back massage to relax and release control. Take all the time you need; the battery won’t run out! It lasts from two to three hours, depending on the model.

Touch yourself a little first

Pinch, pull, rub, or squeeze your clit to get excited before using the wand. Got a penis? Stroke the shaft or balls – whatever you do to get in the mood.

Don’t be shy; feel free to watch porn, read an erotic story, or lean into your fantasies. And, why not? If you’re with someone, invite your partner to eat you out or finger you for a little while. The idea is to get horny and excited before adding any strong vibrations into play, especially if this is your first time using the toy.

Don’t know how to touch yourself? No worries, we’ve all been there. Get tips on how to masturbate as a woman or how to masturbate as a man.

Keep your pants on if you’re sensitive

We’re not exaggerating when we say this is a very powerful toy. A Lovehoney customer shares: “I’ve never in my life felt vibrations so strong! Honestly, this wand is powerful, my entire clitoral/vaginal area was exposed to delicious rumbling vibrations, rather than directly on one spot, I orgasmed so fast! I finally get all the fuss!”

So, if you’re super sensitive and rarely put other vibrators up to the highest setting, try using the massage wand over your underwear or pants. Having a layer of clothing between your genitals and the toy might feel more pleasurable.

Try a dash of lube

“Despite what the porn industry would have everyone believe, not every single woman is instantly ready for sex at the drop of a hat. Most of us need a little warming-up time, and lots of us need help in the form of lubricant,” shares sex and relationship’s expert, Annabelle Knight. So, it doesn’t matter if you’re dripping wet, natural lubrication tends to dry out.

Lube keeps you wet, reduces any painful friction, and makes sex way more pleasurable.

We always recommend using water-based lube because it’s safe to use with all types of sex toys, leaves no residue, and is safe to use with latex and rubber condoms. Lovehoney’s Enjoy lube comes in a pump bottle, which makes it super easy to grab some while having sex.

Keep it moving

Writer’s note: These are tips to get you going, not a manual. Experiment to find what works for you.

Unlike clitoral suction toys, where you don’t want to move an inch once you find the perfect spot, the wand might feel better when you move it around. This is because the toy has a wide head that covers all your clitoris (or penis head), so keeping it on the same spot for long might feel too intense.

Lie on your back and move the wand in circles around the clit head without touching it directly. Then, tap the clit slowly by putting the vibrator on top of its head for a second and moving it away. Or, if your wand has vibration patterns, choose a wave-like pattern to get a similar sensation.

Another technique is to move the toy across the entire clitoris, from under the head to above the hood, in a linear movement. Move it up and down, passing gently over the head, stay for a couple of seconds over the hood of the clit and press the toy on to your body. You’ll hit some nerve endings there and can thank us later!

These techniques can work for people with penises too. Just follow the same instructions but touch your penis head when we mention the clit’s. For even more pleasure, try extending the up-and-down motion (from the second example) along the entire shaft for full stimulation.

Try a different position

If lying on your back doesn’t do it for you, change it up. Lie on your front with the wand underneath you and move up and down to rub your clit against it, press your body onto the toy for added pleasure. Another idea is to wedge it with pillows as you squat or kneel over it to feel as if you were with somebody else.

Or, why not attach a suction cup dildo to the wall, go on all fours, and move yourself backward to be penetrated by it? Use one of your hands to touch yourself with the wand to reach a blended orgasm – aka the type of female orgasm that happens when there’s dual stimulation.

Get creative and move around until you find a position that gives you the most pleasure. If you run out of ideas, check out our mutual masturbation positions for couples.

Clean your wand

Yes, external stimulation toys also need to be cleaned after each use! Most Lovehoney toys are waterproof, so you can wash them with warm water and mild soap. Double check the user manual, and if you’re not sure, simply spritz a no-rinse sex toy cleaner like Lovehoney Fresh. Another way to clean your sex toys without water is using sex toy wipes for faster clean-up; leave it to air dry.

Try again another time

No orgasm? No problem!

Climaxing with a new toy, like with a new partner, usually takes a bit of time. But also, going after the orgasm isn’t the only purpose of sex, and focusing solely on this can scare the climax away.

Instead, get to know your body and how it responds to the toy. Explore those movements and sensations that feel good and chase the pleasure, not the orgasm. Put the toy away whenever you feel like it, clean up, and try again some other time.

Turn your partnered sex life up to the highest vibration by using the wand massager during sex. If you’re wondering how to use sex toys with a partner, here are some ways to make the wand vibrator part of your sex sessions:

Sensual massages

“There’s nothing like a sensual massage to build intimacy between lovers,” says Annabelle Knight. Invite your partner to lie flat on their stomach and sit on top of them with your legs on each side of them.

Start touching their back and neck intuitively with your hands and mouth, and then use the magic wand vibe to get rid of hard knots. As you move down the body, use the wand to stimulate erogenous zones like your partner’s testicles, labia, anus, or the back of the knees. Use coconut or edible massage oils for the massage.

Remember to clean your toy with a sex toy wipe and swap to water-based lube when you move the party down to the genitals. This step is unskippable if you’re using latex or rubber condoms, as massage oils may damage the material.

Edging

Edging, aka stopping right before you come and starting again, builds up the pleasure and gives you gut-screaming orgasms. The wand is already quite intense, so mixing it with edging can be game-changing.

Ask your partner to kiss and lick you in the places you enjoy while you use the wand for extra pleasure. Increase the vibration intensity, stop right before you’re about to come, wait a few seconds, lower the power, and start again. Doing this a couple of times can extend and intensify the orgasm.