Masturbation Benefits & Advice

Yes, masturbating can be good for you! But why? Masturbating is a great way to lie back after a long day, relax your mind and body, and relieve pent-up stress. With a calm mind and body comes a great night’s sleep, which is key to being in a good mood the next day.

Discovering how you like to be pleased can also strengthen your body’s pelvic muscles and make our sex lives better. Plus, it may help you last longer and intensify your orgasms. That all sounds pretty good to us.

The clitoris is the part of the vulva that’s responsible for pleasure. The bit you can see, known as the glans clitoris, is about the size of pea and is located above the vaginal opening. The main body of the clitoris is internal, surrounding the inner walls of your vagina in an upside ‘V’ shape. This part isn't visible.

The clitoris can be stimulated by with the fingers, a partner’s mouth and tongue, or sex toy. You might get the most pleasure from using a clitoral suction toy directly on the glans clitoris, or you might enjoy stimulating the clitoris internally. That’s for you to discover!

While many say they people find G-spot stimulation intensely pleasurable, it’s important to know that the G-spot isn’t a distinct part of your anatomy. So, don’t worry too much if you can’t find it. The G-spot is generally believed to be on the front inner wall of your vagina. You might be able to find it by inserting two lubed up fingers and stroking in a “come hither” motion. If that feels awkward, grab a G-spot vibrator that’s designed to target the area with delicious rumbling sensations.

The penis consists of the glans (head), frenulum, shaft and testicles. The head has approximately 4000 nerve endings and is the most sensitive part of the penis, The frenulum (the elastic piece of skin between the head and the shaft) is also highly sensitive and often triggers orgasms when stimulated. The testicles are filled with super-sensitive nerves and can help trigger ejaculation when gently massaged – depending on the individual.

When you’re tired of using your hands, you can please your peen’s sensitive head and shaft by sliding it into a male masturbator. These toys use a variety of speeds and vibration patterns to mimic the sensations of oral sex – and some people even find them useful for stamina training.

If you have a penis, you might also enjoy stimulating your prostate. The prostate is sometimes dubbed the “male G-spot” because of the explosive orgasms it can reward you with. If fingering yourself doesn’t do the trick, try a prostate massager, anatomically tailored to massage your P-spot how you like it.

Anal masturbation can be enjoyed by people of any gender or sexual orientation, regardless of whether you have a prostate. The anus is chock full of nerve endings that can feel amazing when stimulated. Plus, when you tease your perineum, this activates the pudendal nerve, which is the same nerve that’s activated from stimulating the clitoris and vulva.

To get started, give your booty a clean with soap and warm water. Start off with fingers or small anal toys and lather them with lots of anal lube.

Masturbating isn’t just about spending time alone. Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or usually find penetrative sex painful, masturbating with your partner (even over the phone) can increase intimacy and satisfaction.

Mutual masturbation is an opportunity to introduce sex toys into your relationship and learn how your lover likes to be pleasured. It can also be really sexy to watch your partner touch themselves! Try experimenting with orgasm boosters to help intensify sensations or wear some sexy lingerie to boost your confidence and excite your lover.