Bondage is fantastic fun, spectacularly sexy, and often the perfect play to bring any couple closer in quite a number of literal and metaphorical ways.

But when it comes to sharing your love of restraint and sensory deprivation with a new partner, it's not always easy to know how to bring it up.

First impressions of bondage, however, as well as media-reinforced misconceptions, can be far less favourable.

Sharing this kink with a new partner can be highly rewarding, but must be done with due care and sensitivity.

With this in mind, I've created these simple and safe tips to help you introduce your partner to first-time bondage without fear.

First and foremost, thank you for the fabulous response to our first edition of 'Fetish FAQs With Jess' which launched in July.

It's been a roaring success and I'm so so pleased that I've managed to help a few people out there in the real world - Kink-Wizard Level unlocked!

With the UK summer being as brilliant as ever (groan) it seems most of you have been keeping yourselves busy in the bedroom to pass the time (and get some privacy from the kids!) during the holidays.

In this week's instalment, I'm answering questions on how to find beginner's bondage gear, how to dominate your boyfriend, and how to balance romance and kink in the bedroom.

Not to mention I make some pretty sweet analogies about sex and food - and who doesn't love both of those things?

So if you're baffled by bondage, stumped by S&M or flustered by fetishes, read on to be enlightened.

Don't forget to add a comment with your kink query and your question could be answered next month.

A lot of you lovely readers will already know who I am, but for those of you who don't, let me introduce myself.

I'm Jess; Lovehoney's in-house Bondage Expert. With a background in burlesque, pin up modelling, fetish event promotion and being a bit of a pirate-goth hybrid, my transition to Bondage Expert has been pretty easy!

As you can probaby imagine, I see a fair share of niche products, and every day have something new and fantastic on my desk. It's through personal research, experience and a keen interest in all things unusual that have led me to learn a tonne about a wide range of fetishes.

Every week I get asked questions about bondage and kink, but there are some questions which crop up (grooaan!) more often than others. That's the inspiration for this blog.

Every month I'll be taking the most common (or most interesting!) questions and answering them here.

Got a burning question about bondage, S&M or another fetish? Comment below and your question could be answered in next month's blog.

Above: Discover the difference between bondage candles and massage candles with Jess Wilde in this handy video guide.

Dripping hot wax on to your partner from a bondage candle is either a form of intense massage or ultra-erotic BDSM play - it all depends on how you do it.

The exquisite heat and delicious sensations of hot wax make the skin ultra sensitive, leaving your partner ready for all kinds of sexual fun and games…

Making sure that you and your partner are safe and comfortable during hot wax play is of utmost importance and will make sure that no one ends up burned or scalded.

Follow our top tips below to experience the teasing, suspenseful and pleasurable side of hot wax play…